WHY NOT TO TALK ABOUT SEX IN SCHOOLS EDUCATION

Its something which most of us do, sex - make love sometimes use a condom. But is sex for pleasure or is it just for reproduction. In Madhya Pradesh there is a serious debate on that. A condom with a vibrating ring is now making the entire state machinery see red.
The Indian society is opening up perceptions about sex and condoms are changing - but is it really true?

Are Indians hypocritical about matters of sex? That was the talking point on CNN-IBN show India 360 conducted by Bhupendra Chaubey with a panel comprising Prafull Goradia ex-BJP MP, Kailash Vijayvargiya Madhya Pradesh PWD Minister and television personality Tarrana Kapoor.

When asked about what the objections against the condom, Kailash said, “First thing its not condom its sex toys. They are selling sex toys inform of condoms. Condom is used for family planning and to prevent AIDS. As per my knowledge it’s not the condom it’s the sex toys which is being sold in the market.”

Reacting about the sex toys being sold openly in the market Tarana said, “I honestly have no idea why they are objecting to something that is obviously a contraceptive and could also give you pleasure so you have fun while doing sensible thing. I have lot of colleagues and friends in a big city like Mumbai and everybody travels abroad and everybody has list of fun sex toys to bring back.”

“So what’s the big deal if they openly being sold here because ultimately the cause is right. It is for to prevent AIDS to basically not have unwanted children. So what’s a big deal in it,” she added.

Why we have this double standard, why we have this hypocritical attitude towards matters related to sex. Whether a condom is used for pleasure or its use for family planning the fact is are we not just comfortable with the idea of sex.
Answering the questions Goradia said, “I think what has happened is that the Hindus in India are confused about their tradition. The Muslims and the Christians are generally clear whether we agree with them or not. The Hindu problem is that the ancient India had its Jaganath temple entirely covered with lot of sex so did the Konark temple so do the famous Khajurao temple. Similarly Kamasutra is written which obviously means that sex was also for pleasure in the Hindu context. “
So why this controversy then and would you agree with the decision which has been taken by the MP government.
“No I don’t agree at all. I think they are on the wrong track,” Goradia said.
Responding to Mr Goradia Kailash said, “What I am saying is that government’s job is development of the society. From next day if some people of society or some doctors say that if someone is weak in sex they should watch blue film so is the government going to show everybody blue film? Is this government’s job to sell these kinds of sex toys? Government’s job is to give sex education.”
Tarrana said that sex toys can’t be correlated to pornography and both are different entity.

you really cant associate pornography with a sex toy something gives you pleasure but the basic purpose behind a condom is to protect you either from a disease or an unwanted pregnancy and you have fun along with it. It certainly nothing to do with the blue films. There is absolutely no correlation between the two,” Tarrana said.

In our country when it comes to matters which are related to display of affection whether its holding hands, kissing in public hugging now sex – we always seem to have a problem. Why do we just want to be a pleasure-less society?

Goradia answered, “We have forgotten our values what was supposed to be at the Hindu priority. As I said the temples today have plenty of these example which distinctly show that sex was pleasure and there need not be any secret about it.”

Talking about the double standard regarding the sex Goradia said, “We are confused by a set of different imported values. We have forgotten our ancient culture.”

Is that a valid assessment is that a correct statement to make that in India its seems that to be happy to gain pleasure is almost like committing cardinal sin. So don’t hold hands in public don’t kiss in public because someone is going to be offended.

Tarana said, “I think its been grilled into lot of youngsters head that pleasure is not really good and you should be thinking about other people that anything gives you pleasure that seems wrong in the eyes of the society its something that is taboo and you shouldn’t be doing it. Hence everybody is doing sex. I know lot of people having sex at a much younger age than my generation and still we will not educate them in school we will not tell them about what condoms are really for.”